hey I just wanted to ask you guys if yo usenet to reclaim the night recently in London? I was there and it was AMAZING, it was my first march and I instantly fell in love with it! Being around so many people that all think the same thing was truly inspiring. I am used to being the minority in my views, and to finally be the majority was a welcome prospect. I just thought you should know about it if you don't already. It's about ending violence against women, who doesn't love that!!!!!!!!
Anonymous

Me and Becca went and it was great! I know the feeling, looking around and realising that you’re not alone in your fight. One of the important side effects of events like that is that it boosts us up, and we get to see that there’s so many of us in it together (that was soppy as hell, sorry, but it’s true!) - Subi

Hello dames, i have been watching your videos for a while and agree with many of your points, however recently i have had a bit of problem. I was born with klinefelter's syndrome ( gives me a 47 xxy chromosome - i also have both sets of genetelia) and was wondering if it was ok for me to blame my problems on patriachy, even though i am actually part man. Reply needed quick, much love xoxox
Anonymous

Hey, well, I always go on about the patriarchy hurts everyone, and it’s true! No matter what your sex or gender, patriarchy finds a way to fuck us all up, with it’s oppressive gender roles and rigidity of the gender binary it imposes. Saying that, it definitely targets and impacts on some more than others. It depends what problems you’re referring to, but I’d say you’re perfectly entitled to blame the patriarchy! - Subi

OMG DAMES! A tv show with 'girl/s' in the title that doesn't immediately make me want to poke my own eyes out?! S'called 'Some girls' and is starting soon on BBC 3 - do you guys think it looks like it might be any good?
Anonymous

I watched the trailer, who knoooows! 

Main protaganist is a black teenage girl so that’s refreshing!  I guess we’ll have to see! - Subi

Subi is a twin!? I watched the layers of shame video but just thought she was a younger sister.. this question isn't really feminism and equality related, I was just get a bit excited when I saw twins
Anonymous

YEAH THAT IS ME I AM A TWIN YES

She is five minutes older than me actually! 

:D

- Subi

I'll be turning 18 soon, and I have a twin brother. We're both good kids, have good grades, etc. He's encouraged to go to college football games at a nearby university, have relationships, and tends stay out all night on the weekends. I'm not allowed to be alone with my guy friends, be out past 11pm, go to concerts or other similar events in a nearby city, and relationships are discouraged. My parents fail to see the sexism in this situation. Can you help me explain my point of view to them?
Anonymous

Ouch. From the perspective of a twin, being treated differently from my sister made me so so so damn angry, and sexism makes me reeeally angry, so I’m pretty furious on your behalf!

Maybe you could explain it by way of asking them lots of questions? I’ve found it sometimes helps to expose people’s warped ways of thinking, because they might not have realised just how skewed their views are. Keep asking why, until they’re forced to say things like “You can’t go out because girls are weak and we’re scared for you”. Then you can work through the sexist bullshit (and hopefully just making them see their own views will be enough to get them on the right track thinking wise), and then reassure them that you can look after yourself. 

(And if that doesn’t work, say really inflammatory stuff like “YOU DON’T LOVE ME AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE HIM, IT’S NOT FAIRRRRRRRR, I BET YOU WISH YOU ONLY HAD ONE KID” etc, idk, guilt them or something) 

(That was terrible advice sorry, but you can try to use the twin thing to your advantage, cos they can’t say shit like if he was older or something, and it’s just the most blatant comparison that they really shouldn’t even be trying to justify their way out of)

Good luck! - Subi

Did subi delete :(
Anonymous

Nooooo, I just changed my url! I’m now peskyangryslut :) - Subi 

Do you think it's possible to be a feminist & phone sex worker at the same time? I mean, yeah it's possible, but my views are in opposition to it, though I need the money. The reason I'm against it for myself is that I don't want to participate in fantasies that reinforce misogyny & patriarchy. I'd feel sick. I'm for sex workers rights, but I feel getting paid to do things/act out specific fantasies that reinforce sexism just accepts the status quo & is not empowering. I'm torn. I need money.
Anonymous

I think it’s possible. Feminist sex workers exist! If it’s not for you however, it’s not for you, and you shouldn’t force yourself into something you feel uncomfortable with by intellectualizing about it. Some people are probably able to cope with the seeming cognitive dissonance of talking about/acting out such fantasies because they have a completely different way of rationalising it and making it empowering to them, or for others, it honestly doesn’t matter that it’s not empowering because for now what’s important to them is money and survival and feminism has to wait. 

This is literally just me guessing. I have no idea. Ask a feminist phone sex worker. - Subi

whats your opinion on the tv show "snog,marry,avoid" ?
Anonymous

I used to watch it quite a bit (I just don’t even know why) and it’s just so awful! This was the same time as I was going through my phase of worshipping Gok Wan so there we go really! 

For those who don’t know what the show is, it does “makeunders” for British women (and sometimes men but fucking hell don’t even get me started on their godawful gender politics when it comes to masculinity and blokes).

It basically finds women and blatantly shames them for daring to dress differently from how the magazines tell us to. The show is riddled with slutshaming, and fatshaming and classist attitudes towards fashion trends. It’s fucking terrible, and it strips every person who goes on there of any spark of individuality that they might have and replaces it with blandness. 

I could honestly continue to rant, but yeah, I think it’s bloody awful. - Subi

The current featured video - I re watched the last bit a couple of times and it did keep doing it, but don't worry it seems to have stopped now. Sorry about that!
Anonymous

Oh, that’s odd. No worries, glad it’s fixed itself! - Subi

At the end of Subi's video.... am I hearing things or when it look like it's compeltely done is there some weird sort of scrumpling breathing in noises? I'm so confused :L
Anonymous

Which video is this? My latest one has a few clips of my sister and mates being slightly inebriated and saying their thoughts on women and protest, maybe it didn’t load properly or something?

- Subi