“Queer means radical!” (tw for discussion of homophobia and transphobia)

shutthefuckupstraightpeople:

palilicium:

“Queer means radical!”

-lots of ppl

Is heterosexist shit, lbr. Being queer, being lgbtq, is radical but not by our choice alone. I’d much rather being queer wasn’t a radical act, because I’d rather that kids didn’t get tossed on the street for coming out, that we didn’t get slurs tossed at us, that we didn’t have to fight to have our gender identities respected, that we weren’t assumed to be harmful for children, that our professional lives needn’t so often be a tight-line between disclosure and the potential for ensuing discrimination, that we could be open about who we are to our families, all of our family (not just “the safe ones”, if we have those), and finally that we could live our fucking lives without fear of violent assault, without violent assault.

But being queer is radical. I can’t change that, homophobia and transphobia turned us into radicals in our own lives, and we’re owning that shit because we have no choice. I can, however, acknowledge the pride I have for everyone who lives with that and for those who, sadly, die with that.

And I can and will say that decrying lgbtq people as “homonormative” or, even worse, “heteronormative”, that using “queer” as a stand-in for abnormal, for ~stickin’ it to the man~ is spitting in the face of all of us.

Because “queer means radical!” has the source backwards. We aren’t queer because we want to be different. We’re queer because straight, cis people decided we were; and we’re owning that and reclaiming that and making it ours in any way we can be it by protesting and activism, or just plain fucking living. And that’s pretty fucking radical if you ask me.

The best way to dehumanize someone while claiming you’re not is to believe you are just the same. You erase their experiences and perspective, their struggles and obstacles, their unique way of having to deal with those things in a world that also erases them. With the words, ‘but humans are humans’ or the bullshit dramatics of ‘we all bleed red’ normal people can simply pretend that if we all did things the way they did, then everything would work out okay. But, yes, we all bleed red but you don’t treat a papercut the same way you treat a gash, you don’t treat an infected wound the same way you treat one that isn’t, you don’t treat a wound to the leg the same way you treat a wound to the gut. You are not acknowledging someone’s personhood when you ignore the very things that make their lives different than yours, and when you refuse to understand that their circumstances have given them their own perspective that is just as valid as yours. More valid in fact – their perspective about their experiences that you haven’t been through is far more valid than anything you could ever think about it.

loversintransition:

By Tristan Taormino

Once staunch separatists, queer people are flaunting our fluidity when it comes to gender and identity. Whereas in the late ’80s and early ’90s, the dominant LGBT narrative was a coming-out story, today it’s more like “I’m a lesbian in a relationship with a gay-identified bi guy, so what does that make me?” Plus, the evolution of an out, proud, vocal, and visible transgender community has turned everything on its head, making the term “opposite sex” practically meaningless, or at best confusing. What’s the opposite sex of a male-to-female transsexual? Is the lesbian lover of a male-to-female transgender person bisexual or something else entirely?

All these advances have led to greater dialogue and diversity within LGBT communities.

Click on the link above to read the full article.

I Will Be Angry (TW)

I will be angry.

I will be angry because I am not allowed rights to my own body.

I will be angry because I am not acknowledged even in issues that concern me intimately.

I will be angry because I am jailed for being a victim and trying to bring my attacker to justice.

I will be angry because I am unworthy of protection.

I will be angry because I am not valued.

I will be angry because I can’t take a joke.

I will be angry because I am an outlawed word.

I will be angry because I am crazy.

I will be angry because I am not crazy

I will be angry because I am a slut.

I am a target.

I am decoration.

I will be angry. I will be furious. I will feel every emotion it is possible to feel, and I will not hide it. It is my strength. It is my right. No matter what you say, how you say it, or what you have backing it, I will not be complacent and I will not shut up.

I will not be happy for your comfort, and I will not be polite for your feelings.

I will be angry.

Originally from: La Femmes Fatales