Non shaving, non dieting future bride WLTM inspiration and strength to be myself on my wedding day!
I saw you on the BBC whenever it was. You were AWESOME! I was totally inspired! I quit shaving a few months ago (after Emer O’Toole’s piece in the guardian) and I too felt totally empowered and far more body confident. It’s been awesome! However, I am getting married in August and I don’t know what to do. I hadn’t thought about it when I stopped shaving (my life doesn’t revolve around my wedding surprise surprise) but when I talk to people about it…the first response I get is: but you’re GOING TO SHAVE FOR YOUR WEDDING AREN’T YOU?? (caps is emphasis for actual volume, tone and shock). And of course my rebellious self is thinking, errr, NO. Why would I submit to what YOU think I should do or what the freakin patriarchy thinks I should do. But I’m scared…isn’t that lame? I’m scared of 140 eyes (actually that makes it 280 eyes!) on me and my arms (dress has mini sleeves but it pokes out) and legs (my non white dress is knee length). Close friends have all suggested I should do what makes me happy blablabla. Sure, isnt’ that what we try and do every day? But on the day where you are expected to be PERFECT, not shaving is not acceptable. I don’t want to shave, but I need the strength and inspiration to stick with this. Help me! Where do I find the strength?!
Thanks for sharing this with us. I’m afraid my advice as a non-married, not-planning-on-getting-married, non-shaving feminist would be more of the same “do what makes you happy”.
Your comfort and happiness are the most important thing and you shouldn’t feel you have to keep your hair if you want to remove it for the Big Day, any more than you should feel you have to shave it. Remember, even if it does come off for the wedding, it’ll grow back shortly after.
However that’s clearly not what you’re asking for, so hopefully some of our lovely pesky followers can help with some better advice about finding the strength to stay hairy for your wedding.
- Becca x