LGBTQ* Vocabulary That Might Surprise You
We at KNOWhomo have recently found ourselves participating in a few interesting dialogues about whether or not “womyn” is an empowering term, mostly due to concerns that the term can sometimes hold transphobic connotations due to the controversy regarding the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival of 2002 and its unfortunate dismissal of the validity of identities dwelling under the trans* umbrella in their use of the definition “womyn-born womyn” to distinguish those welcome at their festival.
We understand that the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival’s definition of a womyn as a “womyn-born womyn” is problematic on multiple levels, including but not limited to the obvious lack of recognition for the difference between sex and gender identity. That doesn’t even begin to cover gender performativity or a whole host of other things. (The festival has since removed the definition from their web page, though I’m disappointed to hear that the policy still applies. )
So yes, some groups have mis-used the word womyn. But where did this spelling come from, and why is it important to us?
Let’s enter an alternate universe where the world is binary for a second, okay? Use your imagination. The word woman is an offshoot of the word man, and stems from a patriarchal (read: male-centric) view that the male body is “normal” and the female body is a deviation from the norm. Thus, a wo-man is considered to be inferior to her male counterpart, and the word used to name her identity reflects this supposed inferiority. I don’t know about you, but I’m not a fan of any one group of people claiming superiority over any other group of people.
Simply put, changing “woman” to “womyn” establishes a unique term in which the female identity stands on its own as a valuable person and identity without needing to be directly associated with a man to be valid. For many female-identified persons, seeing the word “man” in “woman” is a constant reminder that womyn are considered to be of lesser value than men in our society, and altering the spelling is a relatively simple way to begin to draw attention to this issue.
Do we at KNOWhomo believe in a binary? Nope. And for the record, I’d rather chew off my own arm and feed it to a platypus before I try to define someone’s sex or gender identity according to binary terms—or try to define someone else’s identity for them at all.
However: the English language is hopelessly devoted to preserving patriarchal values that directly contradict with the ideals of equality for all people that we promote. “Womyn” is a reclaiming of power for many people, regardless of the sex or gender they were assigned at birth. It’s just one more of those pesky little definitions we can use to define our identity in an effort to communicate how we feel on the inside to other people.
For me, as a cisgender female, “womyn” is an inherently political identity first and foremost. The word says, “Hey! I will not be oppressed by the language I speak just for identifying as female in the misguided binary system I am expected to uphold. Don’t put my identity in a box—and if you insist I define it, I get to choose the spelling that most empowers me.”
We’re curious about what connotation this word has for you. Is it empowering? Limiting? Feel free to let us know on KNOWhomo’s Question page, the More We Know!
Reclaiming Words
A day later than usual but wonderful as ever, Jenn explains the basics of what we mean when we talk about reclaiming words.
This dame online:
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Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/jenncanrelyonme
Speak for yourself! Reclaiming words
Subi just manages to suppress a language and linguistics nerdgasm, and talks about the reclamation of slurs. (I promise this video was finished at decent o’clock, it just took forever to actually load!)
Interesting article on how to go about reclaiming a word: http://www.good.is/post/take-it-back-5-steps-to-reclaim-a-dirty-name/
This Dame:
http://uswhoresdontneedyou.tumblr.com
http://www.twitter.com/ThatPeskySubi (look guys I have a twitter now! Idk how to use it but yay!)
Reblogging for anyone who missed us posting this in the wee hours of last night.
Speak for yourself! Reclaiming words
Subi just manages to suppress a language and linguistics nerdgasm, and talks about the reclamation of slurs. (I promise this video was finished at decent o’clock, it just took forever to actually load!)
Interesting article on how to go about reclaiming a word: http://www.good.is/post/take-it-back-5-steps-to-reclaim-a-dirty-name/
This Dame:
http://uswhoresdontneedyou.tumblr.com
http://www.twitter.com/ThatPeskySubi (look guys I have a twitter now! Idk how to use it but yay!)
WARNING: Here be swears (but sadly no dragons)
Video! With lots of swearing in it. (I’m not good at this timezone thing, sorry - Becca)
This Dame:
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Twitter: @beccarothwell
As usual, reblogging at a time when people are awake, because I am bad with time.
WARNING: Here be swears (but sadly no dragons)
Video! With lots of swearing in it. (I’m not good at this timezone thing, sorry - Becca)
This Dame:
Tumblr: somekindofbecca.tumblr.com
Twitter: @beccarothwell
“Female” is one of those words that can be incredibly dehumanizing when used incorrectly. A lot of that has to do with tone and intent, but in general I can break it down like this:
Incorrect usage: Using it as a singular or collective noun. Examples: “You are a female.” “Females should dress modestly.” “You are very well-read for a female.” (All of these examples have actually been spoken in my presence).
Correct usage: Using it as an adjective followed by qualifying nouns or descriptors, usually in reference to animals or inanimate objects, but sometimes to refer to people as well. Examples: “A bitch is a female dog.” “My friend is a female-identifying person.” “Insert the male end of the cord into the female end of the cord.”
If you’re at all confused about why “female” can be a dehumanizing word, refer to the above to keep yourself from sounding like an asshole.
I am a woman. I am not a female. Animals are females. Referring to a woman as “a female” is reducing her to her basic biological function, to one part of her overall existence. “Females” is what closet misogynists use to address women when they’re trying to sound superior or scientific. It’s insulting.
People don’t refer to “males” or “a male” nearly as often as they do to “females.” The word doesn’t have the same connotation. Nonetheless, I wouldn’t refer to a man as “a male,” but more because I don’t want to be called “a female” than because of any underlying sexist reasoning.
On top of that, the word “female” can be used against trans women or men. I’ve actually heard someone say “Yeah, they’re a girl, but they’re not, y’know… a female.” Their meaning was implicit: The person in question was a women except in any way that mattered. Not cool.
A female is an animal, a piece of meat, an object defined by and subject to nothing more than its biology. Or at least, that’s the implied meaning very often when it’s used.
I am not a female. I am a woman. Hear me roar.
[TW: Slurs, some censored so I could write this out]
One of the common criticisms the trans community makes of cis feminism is in regards to the myth of the “universal female experience”. I personally am realizing that I have unknowingly subscribed to a myth of a universal trans female experience. This myth is based on my own, genuine experience: I knew I was female since the beginning. I disown most established trans language in favor of terms like CAMAB and CAFAB. I don’t believe in pure sexual dyadism or terms like “male-bodied”.
While these parameters genuinely fit most trans women I know personally, they don’t apply to everyone. Applying them to everyone else isn’t helping me interact with the greater trans community. It’s causing unnecessary arguments and unproductive battles of trigger versus trigger. It is still important to debunk the myths surrounding the binary essentialism of “male” and “female”. It’s important to deconstruct cis language and find our own. It’s important to empower ourselves. But it’s also important to recognize the trans community has a wide range of perspectives. What’s most important is that we respect each other, and define ourselves without projecting onto others.
Just as some people knew they were trans since birth, some didn’t. Some trans women are also genderqueer or female non-gendered. Some binary-identified trans people consider themselves “gender variant”. Some people identify as MtF. Some people describe themselves as male-bodied. Some people identify as transmisogynistic slurs, including she**** and tr***y. Some people identify as transmen and transwomen, regardless of how intensely that lack of a space sets off my OCD (I’m sad to say that is not hyperbole).
I’ve failed to handle these truths many times, and some of them I still struggle with. But my perspective is becoming a very strong “let people identify themselves”. I’m adjusting my rhetoric to accommodate this. Rather than telling others what to say and what not to say, I find it more helpful to explain the range of experiences trans people have. Some trans women aren’t “born male”, but some are. Some find MtF insulting, others don’t. A similar range of experience (on different subjects) exists among cis people regarding their own genders. What’s important is that we respect the individual and support each other as a community. The message changes from “Don’t make x assumption about me, because trans people aren’t like that”, to “don’t make x assumption about anyone, because people are individuals”. If there is one truth with the power to disarm stereotypes, it’s how different we can be from each other, even those of us who use the same labels.
This shift in perspective is hard. It’s possibly one of the hardest challenges I’ve faced when writing “for the community” and not just myself. This process is also messy. While I am learning the theory, in practice I am certainly no expert. Most of us have sore spots, sensitive topics, and certain words we just cannot bear to hear. Words that have been weaponized so many times we can’t take it anymore. We get angry at each other, we get triggered, we fly off the handle. Sometimes because the offending person is intentionally malicious, other times unintentionally malicious, and sometimes it’s just a plain old misunderstanding. Regardless, the pain is real. The problem often is that, even if we all speak the same language, we don’t necessarily speak the same language. Sometimes we use the same word to mean different things, or use different words to mean the same thing. These mismatched meanings become layered on top of each other, creating a confusing glut of mixed messages.
