Those Pesky Dames

It’s the disconnect of being trained since birth to look a certain way, only to have dudes turn around and go, “Don’t you know we hate all that stuff on your face?” Like it was our idea! Like women collectively woke up one day and thought, “Wouldn’t it be awesome to slap a bunch of chemicals and dyes on our faces every morning from now on?”
We’ve got a multi-billion dollar industry doing their best to remind us daily that we need what they’re selling, so don’t act all befuddled about where we got the idea that we looked better this way. Plus, it’s not like men don’t still expect us to look beautiful. They just don’t want us cheating with cosmetics. Hope your face is naturally flawless!
And while we’re talking, don’t you ladies know how annoying it is that you’re all hung up on your weight? Sure, we expect you to have a great body. But don’t be one of those lame girls who orders salads on a date. We like to see you eat!
Most of the time, when men say they prefer “natural beauty,” they don’t mean that they’re ready for us to start leaving the house the way we roll out of bed in the morning. They mean that they want us to look perfect without appearing to try.
Basically, it’s a trap.

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Emily McCombs (via interstellardiamond)

the “natural beauty” garbage is so fucking galling

it’s bullshit disingenuous rejection of responsibility for patriarchal beauty standards
it hides yet another performance standard: never let us SEE what we are doing to you
it shows contempt for effort. people are not supposed to try at anything, you’re supposed to be a gifted special snowflake
and admitting that femininity is effort means fundamentally undercutting the idea that women are flighty and trivial and weak
and it makes - OF COURSE - the whole thing about dude’s boners, and not the way there are social and financial consequences for not being a little made-up
and it is so hostile to the idea of self-expression? someone who wears bright red lipstick does not think that people will actually assume their lips REALLY ARE bright red, any more than we assume a dude who shaves his face is naturally hairless, or think that a person wearing a blue shirt actually has blue arms. sometimes we make aesthetic choices to communicate with the world.
which in and of itself depends on women as fundamentally underhanded. of course even the way we present ourselves is a bald-faced lie

basically it is a Gross Things About The Patriarchy 101 midterm all rolled up into one passive-aggressive bid for a pat on the back over some Nice Guy’s “enlightenment”

(via pocochina)

Makeup Catchup.

Surprise! Emily is catching up with the topics she missed due to lack of a camera because she cannot resist a good rant. This week she talks about the reaction to the Dames wearing makeup whilst not shaving, debunks some stuff, with the help of cat gifs.

This Dame:

Tumblr: siouxsieismygrandma.tumblr.com
Twitter: @icaruskissmygun

“You aren’t on our minds, and we don’t care what you think is attractive or unattractive. We aren’t trying to be beautiful for you. If we were, we’d walk around in Victoria’s Secret fashion show lingerie all the time… actually, that would be kinda fun.”

I love this video.

Click through to watch the video too, it is brilliant.

(Although an additional point needs to be made that sadly many people, particularly women, do feel pressured to dress for others instead of for themselves. People do wear make-up, and wear certain clothes, and have cosmetic surgery to fit in with the very narrow standard we’re told is “beautiful”. People also do these things because they themselves think they’re beautiful and that’s how they want their body to look.

Body mods and beauty practices aren’t the problem, the pressure for people to conform to a certain set of standards is. - Becca)

thekirbsparadox:

Here’s my barefaced picture - for the #barefacedcheek tag and Those Pesky Dames. :)

Yay! <3

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“bare face twist!” from @Sheba on Twitter.

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#Barefacedcheek and cute curls from @outseide on Twitter.

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An artistic looking example of #barefacedcheek on Twitter from @YasNecati.

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@rheaphine on Twitter posted this lovely #barefacedcheek photo of her and her daughter, “I try to model good use to my daughter…We play with [make-up], and it’s fun, but it’s rare.”

We’re posting confident barefaced photos of beautiful faces without make-up. Join in and add your photo to the #barefacedcheek tag!

Face the Day! - [Guest Vlog]

Kate talks about her experiences with make up and feminism, and issues a challenge…

Make-up videos playlist: http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLEBE7220A5536FF12
Guest vlogs playlist: http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLFF49AAFE68A5E43E

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BEAR faces all round from @sky_like_you on Twitter, “I have a bare face with teddy bears!” #barefacedcheek

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