How to Deal with Rejection Without Prude-Shaming - [Guest Vlog]

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Clouds talks about how micro-scale prude shaming happens if, like them, you don’t like strangers touching you, and add a handy guide to how not to deal with rejection.

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We’ve got a guest video lined up for you later on today, but in the meantime we thought it’d be good to start doing a quick end of week round-up of each topic’s videos, so here we go…

This week we’ve been discussing prude shaming, starting out with Becca’s video focusing on our messed up ideas about virginity:

On Wednesday Subi talked about the different ways men and women are shamed for not having sex and why prude shaming is dangerous as hell:

Thursday saw Holly-Rae’s brilliant and personal video on prude shaming in poly communities and otherwise queer positive/activist spaces:

And finally Jenn rounded off the week with a great example of how being shamed as ‘frigid’ or a ‘prude’ directly contributes to rape culture:

Click the link at the top to see our prude shaming playlist on YouTube, where we’ll also add any future prude shaming guest videos we receive.

If you enjoyed this week’s videos please reblog and remember you’re always free to share our videos any where you like.

Prude Shaming - Also Totally Not Cool

*trigger warning for discussion of rape in the video*

Jenn talks about why prude shame is dangerous and disgusting, and asks for your experiences with prude shaming. 

PRUDE SHAMING PLAYLIST:  http://bit.ly/THrXIL

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Prude Shaming in Poly Communities

Just cause you have a queer pin on your jacket, doesn’t mean that you don’t shame others or punish them for not being into the sexystuff.

PRUDE SHAMING PLAYLIST:  http://bit.ly/THrXIL

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Prude shaming and virginity

The right to say NO and not be judged for it is every bit as important and valid as the right to say YES.

Up a bit late despite being filmed last night (as evidenced by the fancy magazine make-up) because I fell asleep mid way through editing. True story.

Prude shaming playlist: http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL266EB5F98A24A246

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2am is a bit late to be posting a TOPIC ANNOUNCEMENT and I’m quite sleepy, but I won’t be able to post it tomorrow either so let’s keep this short and sweet…THIS WEEK: Prude shamingNEXT WEEK: Women’s sexualityTHE WEEK AFTER: Ableism and feminism
We’ve decided to postpone how to find support/other feminists for a few weeks to coincide with the UK Feminista Summer School on 15th-16th September in Bristol. Several of the Dames will be attending and we’re hoping to have our first ever meet-up, so that’s a bit exciting!!We’ll put up our own Facebook event in the next few days, but in the meantime if you want to join us at the Summer School and meet a bunch of other awesome feminist people, check out the UK Feminista event here.And that’s about it for this week. As ever if you’d like to do a guest video on these or any other topic then let us know!Now I’m going to bed before I fall asleep here and mash my face into the keyboard. - Becca x
[Image is of ThosePeskyDames very own Jenn, a young white woman with red hair and sunglasses on, holding a cardboard protest sign reading “This virgin/whore dichotomy is getting pretty fucking old.” Photo was taken at Slutwalk London 2011.]

2am is a bit late to be posting a TOPIC ANNOUNCEMENT and I’m quite sleepy, but I won’t be able to post it tomorrow either so let’s keep this short and sweet…

THIS WEEK: Prude shaming
NEXT WEEK: Women’s sexuality
THE WEEK AFTER: Ableism and feminism


We’ve decided to postpone how to find support/other feminists for a few weeks to coincide with the UK Feminista Summer School on 15th-16th September in Bristol. Several of the Dames will be attending and we’re hoping to have our first ever meet-up, so that’s a bit exciting!!

We’ll put up our own Facebook event in the next few days, but in the meantime if you want to join us at the Summer School and meet a bunch of other awesome feminist people, check out the UK Feminista event here.

And that’s about it for this week. As ever if you’d like to do a guest video on these or any other topic then let us know!

Now I’m going to bed before I fall asleep here and mash my face into the keyboard. - Becca x

[Image is of ThosePeskyDames very own Jenn, a young white woman with red hair and sunglasses on, holding a cardboard protest sign reading “This virgin/whore dichotomy is getting pretty fucking old.” Photo was taken at Slutwalk London 2011.]

This week’s TOPIC ANNOUNCEMENT should probably include a joke, but as a humourless feminist I can’t think of one, so reblog with your funniest jokes instead!

THIS WEEK: Women in Comedy

- Just in time for the first week of t

he Edinburgh Fringe Festival in Scotland. Hoorah!

NEXT WEEK: How to find support/other feminists

- This has been a frequently asked question from a lot of our new followers, so hopefully we can give a few tips and spread a little feminist love and support.

THE WEEK AFTER: Prude-shaming

- Re-scheduled from a few weeks ago, and one of the most popular topics in our recent Facebook poll. If you haven’t seen our previous videos on slut-shaming check ‘em out here:http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL985AE0A129213B08

And that’s it for this week! Remember if you’d like to do a guest video on these or any other topic then check out full details how here: http://bit.ly/OJNKfV and let us know! - Becca x

[First image shows British comedian Josie Long, a white woman with short brown hair, standing against a white wall smiling at the camera. It was taken by Idil Sukan on Flickr

Second image shows a black and white illustration of a woman looking thoughtful with the caption “I’m a Feminist, now what?” I’ve seen this image around a lot but have no idea of the original source. If anyone knows it I’ll add it in here.

Third image is of ThosePeskyDames very own Jenn, a young white woman with red hair and sunglasses on, holding a cardboard protest sign reading “This virgin/whore dichotomy is getting pretty fucking old.” Photo was taken at Slutwalk London 2011.]

A wild TOPIC ANNOUNCEMENT appears! TOPIC ANNOUNCEMENT uses POSTING BEFORE MIDNIGHT. It’s super effective!

THIS WEEK: We’ll be slapping our best faces on to talk make-up as planned, however…

NEXT WEEK: We’ve switched things around to talk about ‘prude’-shaming, because the date of our Grande Televisual Début has changed.

Our episode of Cherry Healey: How to Get a Life will now be on BBC3 at 9pm on 4th July (BST?), so if you haven’t joined the event yet DO IT NOW!

Which means…

THE WEEK AFTER: We’ll be chatting body positive movements, whilst simultaneously celebrating/panicking about getting our own bodies on TV.

So there you have it, as ever if you’d like to talk about these topics (or any other topic) in a guest video let us know! - Becca x

[First image is of a young white feminine face with lots of different types of make-up samples on it, and is taken from The Guardian.

Second image is of ThosePeskyDames very own Jenn, a young white woman with red hair and sunglasses on, holding a cardboard protest sign reading “This virgin/whore dichotomy is getting pretty fucking old.” Photo was taken at Slutwalk London 2011.

Third image is an illustration showing a line up of thirteen women all of different shapes, sizes and ethnicities. A caption above the line up reads “beauty” and a caption below reads “in every shape and size”. Image was drawn by vonnie-seiyuki-chan on DeviantArt.]