Those Pesky Dames

wretchedoftheearth:

I do find it funny that lesbians are perceived as man-hating but gay men are not perceived as woman-hating, and in fact are often illogically shielded from accusations of misogyny simply by being gay

“It’s a sad irony that we promote self-defense classes as a way of combating violence against women, yet many of the women of color, trans and cis alike, are currently imprisoned precisely because they fought back against violence in their homes and in the streets. Too often trans and queer women of color survive violence in their homes and on the streets only to have the police, courts and prison-industrial complex come after them for having the audacity to survive in a world where, as Audre Lorde said in her poem “A Litany For Survival,” they “were never meant to survive.” — The Trans Women’s Anti-Violence Project: Self-Defense and the Criminalization of Survival

spitfireinspace:

unlubricated-anal-sex:

forever hate people who think fashion is unfeminist.
fashion shows are prob the most diverse shows on tv.
out of the 3 buyers in fashion star 2 of them are women of color and the show has a very wonderful very out lesbian contestant who’s p much the fanbase’s fav and is co-hosted by nicole richie who’s mexican and creole
how do i look is hosted by jeannie mai who’s vietnamese and chinese and who runs like 98095864095 charities because she’s the greatest ever and almost 99% of the time chooses POC to co-host with her
what not to wear is co-hosted by stacy london who’s jewish and sicilian and has a degree in philosophy and clinton kelly who’s an openly gay (and married) man who ISN’T just used as the “token gay fashionista” on the show, EVER
etc etc etc

like
you shut the fuck up already
fashion television is run by a majority of strong, inspiring, intelligent women who work their asses off to inspire other women to follow their dreams and learn to love themselves
so
really?
stop talking, i’m not hearing it

^yes

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Fashion and beauty are some of the very few areas in which women have more freedom than men

And everyone thinks liking fashion and beauty makes you shallow and vain, because those things are “pointless”

Books women like? Shallow and pointless.

Films women like? Shallow and pointless.

Clothes women like? Stupid and pointless.

Makeup? Shallow and pointless.

Patterns women like? Colours women like? Music women like? ANYTHING women like that men don’t?

SHALLOW, POINTLESS, STUPID.

Do you think this is a coincidence?

The Madness Vase
Andrea Gibson

The nutritionist said I should eat root vegetables.
Said if I could get down thirteen turnips a day
I would be grounded, rooted.
Said my head would not keep flying away
to where the darkness lives.

The psychic told me my heart carries too much weight.
Said for twenty dollars she’d tell me what to do.
I handed her the twenty. She said, “Stop worrying, darling.
You will find a good man soon.”

The first psycho therapist told me to spend
three hours each day sitting in a dark closet
with my eyes closed and ears plugged.
I tried it once but couldn’t stop thinking
about how gay it was to be sitting in the closet.

The yogi told me to stretch everything but the truth.
Said to focus on the out breath. Said everyone finds happiness
when they care more about what they give
than what they get.

The pharmacist said, “Lexapro, Lamicatl, Lithium, Xanax.”

The doctor said an anti-psychotic might help me
forget what the trauma said.

The trauma said, “Don’t write these poems.
Nobody wants to hear you cry
about the grief inside your bones.”

But my bones said, “Tyler Clementi jumped
from the George Washington Bridge
into the Hudson River convinced
he was entirely alone.”

My bones said, “Write the poems.”