[Image description: A manatee is swimming upside down, looking at the camera. It must be sunny out, because its belly is lit up. The water looks like it is dark green, and there are spots in the photo. TEXT: “It is normal to be overwhelmed sometimes. Take some time for yourself today.”]
FUCK YOUR “BODY POSITIVITY” FOR ACTING LIKE IT’S MY FAULT FOR STRUGGLING TO LOVE MY BODY. THAT SHIT IS HARD. THIS IS ME HATING MY BODY.
fuck your white body positivity. fuck your cis body positivity. fuck your able-bodied positivity. fuck turning the shame on people, not power.
you’re doing it wrong if you don’t understand the legacies of colonialism and racism in beauty standards, in the states and abroad. if you don’t understand their relationships to eating disorders in poc communities. if you don’t understand how brown and black people struggle to love their racialized bodies. you’re doing it wrong if you don’t understand how trans people, most especially trans womyn, due to the culture of absolute violence that is reserved specifically for them, perpetuated even by other trans people, struggle to love their bodies in this cissexist world (thanks, white gender binary). if you don’t understand that sometimes, trans people just hate their bodies because they aren’t right at the time, that they will never be able to achieve the bodies that they want. if you don’t understand that trans people will always have a complicated relationship with their bodies. you’re doing it wrong if you don’t understand that disabled people struggle to love their bodies in this ableist world. if you don’t understand that some disabled people view their bodies as being wrong or bad, and are struggling with making peace with that. if you don’t understand that disabled people will always have a complicated relationship with their bodies.
you are doing your boring feminism so wrong if you don’t understand that you’re hurting the most marginalized.
Something I aspire to soak in one day.
[Image: two animated GIFs of Portia de Rossi, a middle-aged blonde woman talking.
The caption on the first image reads, “If your self-esteem really does depend on how you look, you’re always gonna be insecure. There’s no way you can get around it. Even if you get the perfect body, you’re gonna age.”
The caption on the second image reads, “At some point you have to take control, shift the focus, and decide that who you are, what you can contribute to the world, what you do and say, is so much more important than how you look.”]
“I ain’t braggin’, cos I’m the one”
Thanks to Chaka Khan for my title there.
Emily talks about the stigma around boasting and self advertising, and how we should aim to tell the world how cool we are more often, or at least begin to tell yourself.
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