[tw: rape/victim blaming] If owning a gun and knowing how to use it worked, the military would be the safest place for a woman. It’s not.

If women covering up their bodies worked, Afghanistan would have a lower rate of sexual assault than Polynesia. It doesn’t.

If not drinking alcohol worked, children would not be raped. They are.

If your advice to a woman to avoid rape is to be the most modestly dressed, soberest and first to go home, you may as well add “so the rapist will choose someone else”.

If your response to hearing a woman has been raped is “she didn’t have to go to that bar/nightclub/party” you are saying that you want bars, nightclubs and parties to have no women in them. Unless you want the women to show up, but wear kaftans and drink orange juice. Good luck selling either of those options to your friends.

Or you could just be honest and say that you don’t want less rape, you want (even) less prosecution of rapists.

A Short Post on Rape Prevention (via brute-reason)

Exactly.

Be honest: You don’t give a shit about rape victims.

You don’t fucking care.

You make excuses for the rapists all the damn time.

This is about policing women’s bodies and telling them to just ‘shut up and stop complaining about your rape because you deserved it’

(via sourcedumal)

peppermint3y3candy:

pasylree:

#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, ineffective, unrealistic things to avoid being raped.

girlsgetbusyzine:

On International Women’s Day 2013, in a London Underground tube carriage on the Northern line, one woman took the radical step of reclaiming the space in which she was sexually assaulted.

When a man pressed his erection into Ellie Cosgrave’s behind on a crowded tube and left her with semen running down her legs, she felt the powerlessness that mark so many women’s daily experiences of harassment and assault. But like thousands of other women in the new wave of feminism sweeping the UK, Cosgrave is taking a stand; finding her own, individual way to fight back and refusing to be silenced any more.

Returning to the carriage where she was assaulted, she performed a dance to express the anger, embarrassment and discomfort that she felt. Next to her stands a sign reading: “On the 4th Aug 2011 a man ejaculated on me in this carriage. Today I’m standing up against sexual harassment everywhere.”

There’s a poisonous double standard in our society which says that it’s reverse-sexist and wrong for women to feel threatened by creepy-awkward male behaviour because our fear implies that we hold the negative, stereotypical view that All Men Are Predators, but that if we’re raped or sexually assaulted by any man with whom we’ve had prior social interaction – and particularly if he’s expressed some sexual or romantic interest in us during that time – it’s reasonable for observers to ask what precautions we took to prevent the assault from happening, or to suggest that we maybe led the guy on by not stating our feelings plainly. The result is a situation where women are punished if we reject, avoid or identify creepy men, and then told it’s our fault if we’re assaulted by someone we plainly ought to have rejected, avoided, identified.

Why We’re Rising

Becca and Emily talk about why they’re rising and show off some of their totally sweet and not at all ridiculous dance moves for One Billion Rising.

Find out more at http://onebillionrising.org

thosepeskydames:

“Look at the legs on that” - street harassment needs to stop

TRIGGER WARNING: Sexual harassment/assault/rape/rape culture.

Jenn discusses why street harassment is not a compliment, and shares experiences of it. 

Article referred to in the video (as a side note, it is very annoying that it apparently takes a man’s voice to show other men the error of their ways. Women have been saying this for a loooong time, but apparently our voices don’t matter to harassers): http://www.theferrett.com/ferrettworks/2012/08/can-i-buy-you-a-coffee/

List of experiences: http://bitemebeautiful.tumblr.com/post/36294308063/street-harassment

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“Look at the legs on that” - street harassment needs to stop

TRIGGER WARNING: Sexual harassment/assault/rape/rape culture.

Jenn discusses why street harassment is not a compliment, and shares experiences of it. 

Article referred to in the video (as a side note, it is very annoying that it apparently takes a man’s voice to show other men the error of their ways. Women have been saying this for a loooong time, but apparently our voices don’t matter to harassers): http://www.theferrett.com/ferrettworks/2012/08/can-i-buy-you-a-coffee/

List of experiences: http://bitemebeautiful.tumblr.com/post/36294308063/street-harassment

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VIGILANTES ARE TAGGING EGYPT’S SEXUAL HARASSERS WITH SPRAY PAINT
TW: Harassment, assault, violence
Article bRebecca Fitzsimons

                  


Despite worldwide publicity and campaigning, the approach to actually solving the sexual harassment epidemic in Egypt has sadly been a pretty apathetic one, with police giving less than a gram of shit about the situation, leaving street perverts to grope away until their hands are content. So it’s perhaps no surprise that anti-harassment groups in Cairo have gone vigilante, taking what’s left of the law into their own hands and patroling the streets to fight the harassment epidemic themselves. 

We first heard about “Be A Man,” one of the more radical anti-harassment campaigns, from a story on NPR. The members of the group patroled during the recent Eid al-Adha festival celebrations, armed with cans of black and white spray paint, attacking, pinning down, and scarlet-lettering the shit out of grabbers and gropers with the words “I Am a Harasser.” Mostly men themselves, the activists wore matching fluoro jackets with “Harassment Prevention” scrawled across their backs in Arabic. I spoke to Muhammad Taimoor, leader and founder of the campaign, about their controversial tactics during the festival.

VICEHey Muhammad. Can you tell me a little bit about what’s been going on in the past few weeks?
Muhammad Taimoor: Yeah, we’ve been working against harassment with our campaign, “Be a Man.” A big problem here is that women-only carriages on the subway are being invaded by men who are then harassing the women onboard, so we’ve been working against that. It was Eid a couple of weeks ago and we were expecting that would be a particularly bad time for harassment. In the three days of Eid that I participated in, we caught about 300 cases of harassment—that’s 100 every day.   

Wow, good job. How do you “catch” these cases?
Our tactics this time were pretty violent—a lot of people were offended because they didn’t like what we were doing. Basically, we attacked the harassers and spray-painted “I Am a Harasser” on anyone we caught in the act. The police weren’t at all supportive of what we were trying to do and they clearly weren’t ready to keep Egyptian women safe during Eid, so we did all the work on our own. 

Why did you choose tagging with spray-paint as a tactic?
Because, in our society, a girl blames herself when she gets harassed. When she speaks out to her family about it, they blame her. Sometimes they prevent her from going to school or going outside because they think that sexual harassment is the girl’s problem, not the harasser’s problem. So, when our group attacks the harasser, the girl feels confident in herself. She feels like she was right, she feels like the street is supporting her. She’ll have the confidence to walk in the street without fear and she won’t be afraid to speak out if it happens again.



How did you get people together for the campaign over Eid?
We collected people on Facebook and got about 30 to 50 people over the three days to join us. I think we did a great job. Just between us, we caught 300 harassers. If everyone in Egypt does what we’re doing and protects the ladies in their hometowns, it would improve the situation so much, because the police don’t bother at all. A little justice is better than no justice. 

What do the police have to say about what you’re doing?
They think we’re not doing a good job, that we should be cooperating with them and that we shouldn’t be attacking people in the street. They don’t like it, basically. I was arrested, along with some other people who attacked harassers. But, seeing as they’re doing an awful job of keeping women safe from harassment, someone has to step in. 

Have the police or the government not done anything at all to combat harassment?
The government aren’t treating it with the attention it needs; they’re underestimating it. The first research into harassment was only seven years ago and the researchers were accused of being disloyal and treasonous. So the publicity and examination of the subject is new to Egypt—even the police hold the Egyptian idea of blaming the girl—so I think it’ll take a long time to move forward properly.

What’s it like being involved in this campaign as a man?
It’s an honor. I think the first step towards fighting this phenomenon in our society is not to be afraid—as men—to acknowledge its existence. I’m not afraid to say that my society is growing more masculine—giving far more rights to men that it does to women—and one of the biggest problems is how people seem to deny that’s happening.


ninja-suffragette:

Protesters gather in Bradford, UK to show support for rape survivors after MP George Galloway’s comment that Julian Assange was just accused of “bad sexual etiquette”. Because apparently raping someone while they sleeping is just a bit rude in Mr. Galloway’s book.

ninja-suffragette:

Protesters gather in Bradford, UK to show support for rape survivors after MP George Galloway’s comment that Julian Assange was just accused of “bad sexual etiquette”. Because apparently raping someone while they sleeping is just a bit rude in Mr. Galloway’s book.