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[tw: rape/victim blaming] If owning a gun and knowing how to use it worked, the military would be the safest place for a woman. It’s not.

If women covering up their bodies worked, Afghanistan would have a lower rate of sexual assault than Polynesia. It doesn’t.

If not drinking alcohol worked, children would not be raped. They are.

If your advice to a woman to avoid rape is to be the most modestly dressed, soberest and first to go home, you may as well add “so the rapist will choose someone else”.

If your response to hearing a woman has been raped is “she didn’t have to go to that bar/nightclub/party” you are saying that you want bars, nightclubs and parties to have no women in them. Unless you want the women to show up, but wear kaftans and drink orange juice. Good luck selling either of those options to your friends.

Or you could just be honest and say that you don’t want less rape, you want (even) less prosecution of rapists.

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A Short Post on Rape Prevention (via brute-reason)

Exactly.

Be honest: You don’t give a shit about rape victims.

You don’t fucking care.

You make excuses for the rapists all the damn time.

This is about policing women’s bodies and telling them to just ‘shut up and stop complaining about your rape because you deserved it’

(via sourcedumal)

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pasylree:

#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, ineffective, unrealistic things to avoid being raped.

There’s a poisonous double standard in our society which says that it’s reverse-sexist and wrong for women to feel threatened by creepy-awkward male behaviour because our fear implies that we hold the negative, stereotypical view that All Men Are Predators, but that if we’re raped or sexually assaulted by any man with whom we’ve had prior social interaction – and particularly if he’s expressed some sexual or romantic interest in us during that time – it’s reasonable for observers to ask what precautions we took to prevent the assault from happening, or to suggest that we maybe led the guy on by not stating our feelings plainly. The result is a situation where women are punished if we reject, avoid or identify creepy men, and then told it’s our fault if we’re assaulted by someone we plainly ought to have rejected, avoided, identified.

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—	The Creepiness Question « shattersnipe: malcontent & rainbows Example: Judge To Woman Sexually Assaulted By Cop: ‘When You Blame Others, You Give Up Your Power To Change’ (via albinwonderland)

How Slut Shaming Becomes Victim Blaming (x)

albinwonderland:

TRIGGER WARNING: DISCUSSION OF RAPE/VICTIM BLAMING IN RESPONSE TO JENNA MARBLES’ VIDEO ABOUT “SLUTS”

realhayleyghoover:

Once again, chescaleigh tells it like it is and saves the world.

(If you don’t already watch her, she makes awesome and super funny videos about race and gender and self-respect and everything worth discussing ever. Go.)

This woman is brave, amazing, and incredibly human. Let’s all go comment and send her lots of love, okay? Because there are already a hoard of victim-blaming arseholes in the comments. It’s hard for women to share in this day and age, especially to discuss an experience as difficult as this, on a forum as open and unmoderated as youtube. So spread the positivity my darlings ♡

An Occasion where Shouting often Isn’t a Good Thing

[TRIGGER WARNING - reporting harassment to the police, slut shaming and victim blaming]

Emily discusses her experiences of how people respond to street harassment.

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Gang-rape trial shocks France and sparks row over justice system »

TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE

A harrowing trial over the alleged gang rape of teenage girls in the high-rise tower blocks of a poor Paris suburb has shocked France, exposed a culture of youth violence and threatens to spark a row over the justice system when verdicts are delivered this week.

Nina and Stephanie – not their real names – said that for years they were too scared to speak out about what they allege were months of almost daily gang rapes when they were 15 and 16, growing up on rundown estates in Fontenay-sous-Bois outside Paris. In 2005, Nina was left unconscious by one final brutal beating following years of abuse and told a female police officer. What followed was a trial that has shaken the country as it struggles to deal with a spate of gang rapes of teenage girls by youths on estates across France.

The alleged Fontenay-sous-Bois attacks took place between 1999 and 2001. Nina, now 29, told the newspaper Libération she had moved to the housing estate aged seven with her mother and brother after a divorce. She was described as good at school and a tomboy. One night returning from the cinema, aged 16 and a virgin, she said, she was grabbed by a local group of youths, taken to basement cellars in the flats, raped and subjected to a series of brutal sex attacks by scores of local boys. The extremely violent, prolonged attacks by large groups of boys continued daily, in car parks, stairwells, apartments, cellars and the empty playground of a local nursery school. She said there would be “at least 25” youths present during attacks in which she screamed, protested, cried and vomited. One witness described 50 boys “queuing” to attack her.

Told that her flat would be burned down if she spoke out, she was afraid to tell her mother, who noticed she was washing eight to 10 times a day.

Nina, who has put on 70kg (150lb) since the attacks, described gaining weight as a “shell” behind which to hide. She allowed herself to be filmed by the media outside the trial hearings to encourage other victims to go to the police, saying: “It was the accused who should hide, not me,” and was praised by her lawyers for speaking out in what they said had become a dangerous “culture of silence” on the estates. At the start of the trial, the alleged victims were hailed in the media for their bravery. But the jury trial, held behind closed doors because the accused were minors at the time, has taken place under a tense and heavy atmosphere. One alleged victim, Stephanie, tried to kill herself four days into the hearings. Nina, left infirm by the attacks, was overcome and had to leave court for much of the proceedings.

The 14 men on trial, now aged between 29 and 33, many of whom are married with families and jobs including one ambulance driver, deny rape. Some of them said sex took place but was consensual and that the alleged victims “liked sex”. Details from the trial conveyed to the press showed some defendants making comments such as that the women were too ugly to rape, or that sexual relations had not taken place “because if they had I would have heard Nina moaning in pleasure”. The women’s lawyers complained that some had dismissed the alleged victims as “liars or nymphomaniacs”.

Reports by psychiatric experts concurred that the women had been sexually attacked.

In theory, the accused risk a maximum of 20 years in prison, but the state prosecutor this week recommended prison sentences of between five and seven years for eight of them, all minors at the time of the attack. For six others, the prosecutor said there was a “doubt”, without elaborating. The women’s lawyers said they were shocked by the sentence recommendations. Lawyers on both sides have complained of an incoherent trial.

Verdicts will be delivered tomorrow.

The Boobs Are Not The Problem

[Trigger warning for talk of rape and victim blaming]
[Also vaguely NSFW - boobs]

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Rape Culture - The rambley version of my Slutwalk speech - [TRIGGER WARNING FOR RAPE, RAPE CULTURE, VICTIM BLAMING, SLUT SHAMING]

Subi talks on a pretty personal level about how the police treated her after she reported a rape, and how that is part of and helps create the rape culture we live in.

This is also pretty much a first rambling draft of the speech I’m going to make at London Slutwalk 2012, hope to see some of you there!

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Judge To Woman Sexually Assaulted By Cop: ‘When You Blame Others, You Give Up Your Power To Change’

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